Day 11: Purity
Head: This day and age, it is harder and harder to approach the subject of adultery and sin in marriage. I personally have close friends whose marriages have ended for this very reason. It is extremely heartbreaking when trying to comfort a friend who has been the victim or caused victims of a spousal adultery. It just seems that the right words of comfort won't come. It's because only God can give the comfort.
Last year, I read the book "Kiss Me Again" by Barbara Wilson. Her book explains her journey and the journey of others in God's healing of hearts and of marriages. The one thing that she stresses over and over, is that God wants us to give to Him the things that have made our marriage impure, He already knows about them. God wants those things. He wants them so that we can move forward in our marriage. He wants us to do these things so that we will be cleansed and will not have to face the judgement He promised for our sinful acts. He wants our marriage to be the one He intended from the very beginning, a marriage of trust and love.
Let marriage be held in honor by all, and the bed undefiled: but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. Hebrews 13:4
Heart: It is because of Jesus that we are forgiven. It is because of Him that sins such as these are wiped away so that we can again be in God's glory. Our sins can never be covered by our own doings. We will never be sufficient to right the wrongs. God sent His Word in flesh, to walk among us, suffer and die in order to pay the price for how we continue to defile our lives. No amount of offering is sufficient. All our Father asks is that we repent and change our ways and know that because of Jesus, He has forgiven. Then His promise is that He will bless our lives and especially our marriages. Once we are forgiven, we have to remember that God, as magnificent and all knowing as He is, will never bring your past back up. He will never, remind you of what you have asked to be forgiven for. In His miraculous way, he has wiped clean your burdens.
There are many scriptures in the Bible on marriage and here are a few:
Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. ... 1 Corinthians 7: 1 - 40
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24
Hands: Situations such as these are not uncommon. I do not know what has happened in your past, in your marriage or in your mind. However, we are all guilty of sin. There is always that dark cloud, the devil, who want to weasel his way into our marriage. Today, we will not only pray for the forgiveness and healing we so badly need from our Father, but also, we will ask that he bury it away and protect our marriages from the evil doer. God wants the glory in your marriage. You may be studying to improve your marriage but God is the one working. Give Him the glory He deserves. Know that He has forgiven and you can move on.