Day 2: I Don't Want To Be A Sidekick!

Sunday, October 02, 2011 Aimee Larsen 4 Comments

It never surprises me when you think you have something all figured out (or in my case Day 2 typed and ready to launch) and God puts a new spin on things.  This morning my husband and I got the biggest laugh when we heard our littlest boy from down the hall yell "I DON'T WANT TO BE A SIDEKICK!"  Obviously, there is an argument between two brothers and the youngest does not want to be "Robin".  In reality, either one of my boys could be the super hero, not one is more special than the other and both hold a super power that makes them look particularly adorable during a time of need.  At the very moment we heard the dynamic exclamation, I thought "Thank you, God."

It is always so hard to describe the role of a wife.  But you have to think, no one wants to be considered the "side kick" when they know they have equal powers.  Right? Right!  My "super powers" as a wife and mother are different than my husbands "super powers".  However, we work as a team.  In a way, I am his sidekick.  Not because I am less of a person but because he needs me to be and I don't mind.  Truly, I don't mind because I know that without my super powers, he would just be less of a man and no man wants to be less of a man.  I'm always supposed to use my powers to lift him up and make him better than he ever thought he could be.

One of my super powers is kindness.

Head: Just think about how many times have you heard  "Love is Patient, Love is Kind..."?  Yesterday, Day 1, was a day of patience.  It was a day of expressing love through patience.  If you practiced that very challenge, then hopefully kind words were used a little more and you became more conscious of times when you need to be patient. Patience and Kindness are two sides of a coin.  Patience is used to withhold negativity while Kindness is used to bring a blessing.  It is used to make someone feel better.  It is not always innate and does not always come naturally.
Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.  Ephesians 4:32
  • Who has recently shown you kindness in words or actions?  How did you respond?
  • Has there ever been a time when your kindness was misinterpreted?  How did that make you feel?
  • What kindness is God prompting you to show toward your husband today?
A kindhearted woman gains respect... Proverbs 11:16
I led them with cords of human kindness, with ties of love; I lifted the burden from their neck and bent down to feed them.  Hosea 11:4
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self0control.  Galatians 5:22
 Heart: Why?  Because God created you to be your husbands partner.  I always think of the Blake Shelton song, God Gave Me You and I get all emotional.  God gave us our husbands, as much as we'd like to think that we chose them, they are a gift from God.  God gives perfect gifts, in the way that the gifts are perfect for us.  We are also gifts to them just as Eve was God's gift to Adam.  I once heard someone say, "If God created the perfect wife for your husband, would you be her?"  My answer is yes and so should yours be, God does not make mistakes.  We make mistakes in how we handle situations, how we love, and how we think.  God does not change his mind about his gifts.  Being your husbands wife, helper and lover is your divine calling.

When I read Proverbs 18:22 "Whosoever finds a wife, finds a good thing, and obtains favor with the Lord", I read it in awe.  Looking at the words and realize that I am a GOOD THING and my husband obtained God's FAVOR because of me.  Why wouldn't I lift him him, praise him, show patience and speak kind words.  You are a GOOD THING and have caused your husband to find FAVOR with the Lord, so show a little kindness.

Heart: With this in mind you need to look at your husband and find something, anything positive to say to him.  Reach into your heart and find those kind words and gestures that you can do today in addition to being patient. Not only will you be patient and withhold something negative, you will say something kind, something positive and uplifting. You will do this for the next 38 days and for the rest of your life.  We all have our bad days, we are human and flesh.  However, we need to start and continue to be mindful of our super power of kindness.

Here are some additional scriptures on kindness.
Thanks again for meeting me in my laundry room, I hope you'll come back tomorrow for Day 3 and a new challenge. 


  1. Thank you for sharing, you described the issue and responsibility so well.

  2. I just happened across this challenge and am in love. It is hard, even on day two. But I an hoping that I will get what I put into this challenge and that through my hard work my whole family will reap the benefits. Thank you.

  3. I'm only on day two and I'm a fan. The advice is solid. That being said, God Gave Me You is not a Blake Shelton song but a Dave Barnes song. Blake Shelton covered it. Search for the original, it's much better.

  4. This Devo is amazing and such a blessing. I am sharing it with the woman in my life. Thank you for your obedience to God.


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