Day 19 Time Starved?
Head: Time spent together is vital to the health of a marriage. That is why several of the challenges from previous days have involved spending together. Without spending time together we can't share, laugh, cry or anything together. When the opportunity arises for us to spend time with our spouse and we don't, our marriages become resentful, stagnate and sometimes even die. As obvious as this fact seems, many marriages today are time starved.
If two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone? -- Ecclesiastes 4:11
Heart: Usually a lack of time spent together is simply a matter of poor planning or we just aren't really good at saying no to those that want commitments from us. When our commitments start to outweigh our available time aspects of our marriage start to suffer. We are all surrounded by people that demand our time, employers, kids, church, school, etc. If you happen to have a husband that doesn't speak up, he's liable to end up at the bottom of the pole. The flip side is if a spouse is too vocal, they are accused of being selfish, manipulative, controlling, etc. We simply can not let aspirations for our life negatively affect our relationship with our loved ones.
Love and faithfulness meet together; righteousness and peace kiss each other. Psalm 85:9-11
It really doesn't matter why couples find themselves not spending enough time together, what matters is that it is a problem that is recognized and remedied. Spending time together should be high on the priority list and it should stay there. Your marriage could depend on it.
Hands: Plan a date night or romantic evening, just the two of you.
And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Colossians 3:13-15