Day 32: Love and Romance

Head: As of today's post we are approaching 1 more week of study.  In the last week  alone I have to say that God's works are evident in my home.   I myself feel calmer and at peace.  My husband and I have communicated better and the time spent together has felt so comfortable.  I am closer everyday to the relationship I truly want with my husband.  

Through this study I have learned so much and God has shown me so many things but the one thing that I still am in awe of is how our mighty Father is still in all the little things.  When you see God's works in the little things you will want to give him more, you will want to have Him in all details of your marriage.  The next few days, I want to look more into what God has in store.   These are the topics I want to study on with God to better understand His plan for my marriage...please join me.

• Love and Romance (Day 32)
• Spirtual Growth (Day 33)
• Communication (Day 34)
• Personal Growth (Day 35)
• Family and Friends (Day 36)
• Children (Day 37)
• Finances and Work (Day 38)
• For Husbands Only (Day 39)
• Growing Old Together (Day 40)

Love and Romance:

Billy Graham once said:

If couples would put half the effort into marriage that they put into courtship, they would be surprised how things would brighten up.

Heart: I don't think there is one woman out there who wouldn't agree that if her man put his best forward at all times, their love would be much better off.  The fact is, after marriage, after the honeymoon phase we start to get more comfortable with each other.  We are more relaxed and we start to take for granted the little things that used to make our heart skip a beat.  Some husbands never forget a Valentines Day or birthday while others struggle to remember.   Some husbands stop working out, start eating more, start being bossy or demanding and the list could go on and on.  At some point what happens is, we as wives stand back and take a look at our husbands and shake our head in disappointment.  Why isn't our husband more willing to please us?  Why don't they say "I Love You!" more often?  When did he become such a slob?   The fact remains that when our husbands start to put forth less effort we take it as a sign that they may love us less and there begins the hurt.

I will be glad and rejoice in your love, for you saw my affliction and knew the anguish of my soul.  Psalm 31:7

Copyright: Ginger Wiltbank @ The Amateur Writer

What married woman doesn't want this scripture to be true in their own lives concerning their husbands?  How awesome it would be to have a husband that is sensitive to our very needs at all times. Well, HELLO, they aren't!  They are human and honestly, they only feel compelled  to tell us they love us as often as they feel necessary.   We on the other hand may need to tell them every single time we speak to them.  That is great but the tragedy that does not need to happen is that your husband has to think back to your wedding day to remember being told he is loved and the same goes for you sister concerning him.

The romance in marriage doesn't die.  It's always there, we just have to throw a few sticks on the fire to rekindle the flame.  What do I mean by sticks?  If you think about your husband in a fond way, don't hold it to yourself, tell him.  If you remember a time when you were both sharing a moment of love or passion, remind him.  Sometimes it can do a marriage good to go back to the courting phase, to woo each other.  This phase can be fun and exhausting but it is something all marriages need.  Gentle reminders keeps life from choking the romance out of your marriage.

My husband has a little note in his wallet that I tucked in a few weeks ago as part of a previous challenge.  He kept it there.  It was a simple "I Love You" but he loves it.  He loves to open his wallet and see that little reminder there and it gives us both the feeling of a time when we were very young and in love, passing notes in the hallway at school.  Our husbands still need constant reminders of our love.   Even God gave Moses instruction to help the Israelites remember his love for them, because he knew how easily they would forget or take it for granted.

And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your strength.  And you must commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these commands I am giving you today.  Repeat them again and again to your children.  Talk about them when you are at home and when you are away on a journey, when you are lying down and when you are getting up again.  Tie them to your hands as reminders, and wear them on your forehead.  Write them on the door posts of your house and on your gates.  Deut. 6: 5-9

God knows we need daily reminds of His love but we have to be willing to share His love and so we must do the same for our husbands.  We must remind them and share with them how much we truly love them.

Hands::  Make sure your husband knows he is on your mind.