Day 31: Love is Intimate

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Head: When the scripture says, "to love their husbands", it not only means that you love him with your heart but that you LOVE him physically.  We are to desire our husbands like we want to be desired and so, they will desire us as we want to be.  This is all part of God's plan of love for our marriage.  If we know we should be doing something "good" for our husbands and we withhold or don't do it, we are committing a sin (James 4:17).

1 Corinthians 7: 2-5 says, "Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.  Let the husband render (give) unto the wife due benevolence (sexual gratification you owe her): and like wise also the wife unto the husband.  The wife hath not power of his own body, but the husband.  Defraud ye not one the other except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

When a wife is not interested in her husbands most consuming passion, her husband will begin to feel that she is not interested in him.  Even though she may not intend for that to be the sake, it is simply that her disinterest in him is a reflection of her heart and her husband will know it.  Desire simply builds on desire.

When you truly love, and reverence your husband, the very though of him loving the likes of you should thrill your soul and make you long to cause him pleasure.  Debbie Pearl

Heart: One of my favorite authors on intimacy is Debbie Pearl.  She seems like the most homely woman in the world, the woman who teaches others on being the wife God intends us to be.   She is doing the work that many of our mothers and grandmothers thought was unsuitable to do.  She gets to the heart of the matter with our husbands and does not hesitate to talk about intimacy.

So, intimacy with our husbands should be an open, godly conversation that we are not afraid to have with other wives.  It is how we learn and how we are supposed to be taught.  I love that Mrs. Pearl views sex with her husband as a ministry, one that is a selfless act.

 Ephesians 5:32 "This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the Church.

Even sex is so beautiful that God uses it to illustrate the union of Christ and the Church.  It is something that is sweet, special and necessary.    God expects us as wives to answer our husbands needs and to do so with joy.  He wants us to study on our husbands so that we will know his needs before he is even aware of them and to think only of our husbands so that will be eager to please him and be pleased.

It is not unnatural for a husband to have a greater desire than his wife, and we should not make our husbands feel bad for it.  On the flip side, we should be proud that our husbands have a desire for us.

Hands:  Make a list of how you are going to love your husband and make it as long as you like.  The list of changes in your actions will result in your feelings doing the same.  Study on the Song of Solomon, as I have mentioned before.  If this book about love was so important to include in God's Word, it must be important enough for us to study.