Day 16: A Steamy Marriage

A few days ago I asked my girl friends on facebook to be honest..."How many times do you go to bed with your make-up on?"  More than not, my girl friends were washing their faces religiously and the ones that admitted they did not on occasion were quick to say that they are so tired by the time they get to bed that they don't think about washing their face.  They've cleaned their house, worked a hard job, fed their family, put away clothes, given children baths, changed 18 diapers and the list goes on.  Because we are our husbands help meets we tend to be the ones that go to bed and pass right out without even taking care of ourselves first.  So, it's no wonder we are not interested in sex or intimacy with our husbands.  Between my girlfriends and I, we have discussed this problem of "a lack of intimacy" and the degrees of the problem vary.  Some friends husbands are all over them as soon as they walk in the door and they are too tired OR they aren't too tired but their husbands always seem to be.  First let me say which ever end of the spectrum you are currently on let's strive for the middle.  If you are far on one end of the spectrum, you ARE wishing more and more for that middle.


Head: So, where's the middle?   I'm sure we all have our own idea of what a spicy marriage is like when you both agree to meet in the middle.  So, I thought about mine and at what place my marriage could use a dash of romance, a pinch of sexy, a tsp of kisses and a cup of more love.

The Book of Songs was  placed in our Word of God  as a demonstration to us of what Godly love looks like.  Of course the imagery is very organic, erotic and earthy and may not always make sense to us modern techno's with our twitter updates, facebook posts and texting skills.  It is still a beautiful book on marriage and love but in the Scripture it says that God rejoices in married love and wants his people to rejoice in it too.  So, my heart just skipped a beat.  Rejoice in our married love!!  I need to "spice things up a bit".

Song of Songs 1:4  We rejoice and delight in you; we will praise your love more than wine.

 The steamy dialogue that I am encouraging you to read could very well set the tone for your own ideas on adding spice to your marriage. (wink)  I want to encourage you to take the time to read as much as your day will allow you to the book of Songs.  It'll melt your heart (i.e. 2:1-2)  Just the language and the description that they use to one another is what we pine for sometimes in our marriage.

"There is no need to plead that the love of God shall fill our heart as though he were unwilling to fill us.  He is willing as light is willing to flood a room that is opened to its brightness."  Amy Carmicheal

Heart: While we are talking about love for our spouse, I want to also talk about God's love for us.  God is love - even your desire for love points to him as the source of love.  The love between a man and a woman is a beautiful reflection of God's love, but you only desire that kind of love because God has placed that desire in your heart.

The Song of Songs presents a picture of love between a man and a woman that reflects the love of God.  God doesn't love you at a distance or remember you as an afterthought.  Look at the words used to express his love: seal, strong, unyielding, blazing and unquenchable.  He loves everything about you, the way you walk, talk laugh, brush your hair.  He loves you in more ways than you can ever know because he knows you through and through.  He knows your thoughts, when you sit, when you rise and when you lie down (Psalm 139).

God wants you to believe that he loves you!  He doesn't put conditions on his love.  he only asks that you respond to his love:  "Place me like a seal over your heart."  Imagine God saying to you, "I love you so much that I want to be with you intimately, at all times."  God loves you with the strongest love imaginable, a love that is as strong as death.  In fact, he proved his love through Christ's sacrifice on the cross.  The ultimate gift showed us that his love was for us, in fact, a love worth dying for.  New Women's Devotional Bible 2006 by Zondervan

• What keeps you from believing and fully accepting God's love?
• How would your thoughts and actions be different this week if you fully believed that God loved you?
• Read Psalm 139, memorize as much of it as you can.  How dies it change your view of yourself to realize how intimately God knows you and loves you?

Hands:  Write five notes.  5 wishful notes to your husband, write on them what you want to but make it spicy.  Tuck them away in places he will likely find them this evening or even tomorrow during his work day.  The notes should set the mood for a romantic evening together.  Today, you are going to be the woman that he is going to want to come home to, to fantasize about, to want to drop everything to be with.  Idea!