Day 25: Love is Virtuous
Head: Last night, I had an awful dream. I don't for a second believe that my dreams are my own. My dreams have always been ones that have meaning, affect my moods and I believe are the works of God. My dream was about my husband and I. At times it was weird and didn't make sense. My dream was that I drove my husband away. He was simply no longer interested in me and actually would much prefer someone different all together. When I woke up my mind went directly to what I would do to keep my husband. How it made me feel was that I would do anything to keep my husband and I wanted the "courting process" to start all over. I wanted to be delightful and willing, to put his needs before mine. I wanted to say..."Shove over world and leave us alone!"
Now, I know my husband isn't leaving or looking but it does make me think about how willing I was in the beginning to please him. I would dress nice and talk sweeter...that was in the beginning. The beginning was many years ago...19 years ago.
When I read 2 Peter 1:2-7 I start to picture a growing mountain and of course my marriage mountain when reading these versus.
5And beside this, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue; and to virtue knowledge;
6And to knowledge temperance; and to temperance patience; and to patience godliness;
7And to godliness brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness charity.
Heart: When I started the talk on Marriage Mountain, I started with faith and today I am adding virtue. There is one place in the Bible that I would automatically turn to to read about a virtuous woman. Proverbs 31: 10 -31.
10Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
28Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
31Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
The virtuous woman brings her husband pride, she is not lazy, she does good by her husband and puts much thought and effort into her responsibilities, every one of them. Her words are thought out, she is kind, she is not vain and she is always prepared.Hands: Read the scriptures above and imagine the virtuous woman, then have a talk with God about the things you can do better in your life. Reflect on your marriage in the beginning, in the "courting" or "honeymoon" stages when your best foot was put forward and think of one thing that you did then for your husband that you no longer do. If he appreciated the efforts then, he will appreciate them now.