Created to be His Help Meet
In my opinion I have the worlds best husband. It kind of makes me feel bad for the wife I've been in the past. Up until several years ago I expected him to work a full time job and then come home and help me. Since I've reevaluated my purpose as a wife and mother I've found that it was supposed to be the other way around all along. I found that if I helped him instead of expecting him to help me I ended up with the marriage I wanted. My husband works and works all week, 60 plus hours no less. I was offended not to long ago by a comment that never made it to my blog posting from a reader who said her husband is supposed to help her, if he wants clean undies...he can wash them. It was almost like she took offense to me doing for my husband and my family.
The fact remains that
I love this man!
I love the life we have!
I love our family!
I love our home!
a few years ago I could not say this!
I think my problem was always that I wanted what I wanted. I didn't want for my family or my husband what God wanted for them. I found that because I loved them so much I was willing to put God first and boy did it change things.
I'm the wife I want to be.
I feel more incontrol instead of less.
I am loving.
I am no longer demanding.
the list goes on and on.
Now, I can't say that I wouldn't want a husband that brought home roses or was romantic but I can say that everyday that he gets up and goes to work and works 12 hour shifts and then some...that's my valentines card, that's my box of chocolate, that's my bed of roses. I do enjoy dinners out...I do enjoy time with him alone. It's few and far between but that makes the time more precious.
I watch my tongue.
If I want it done and I'm capable of doing it, I do it.
I say kind words.
I TRY, really TRY!
I catch myself. I feel bad. I want him to be proud of me. I'm proud of him. It is my divine calling to be his wife. He's a gift to me and I to him and I want to keep it that way. He is my Mr. Right! He loves me. I feel cherished not desperate. I have a thankful spirit not a poor me attitude. I am content...and practice makes perfect. Why? Why am I all these things?
God gave them to me.
I asked for the marriage I wanted...a Godly marriage.
A healthy one.
That's what I got!
I love that man!
I pray that all my married friends have the marriage they want, God wants.