A Bond Beyond...
.written for a Breastfeeding Support Group!
When I was pregnant with my first baby I hadn’t given much thought to breastfeeding, only I knew it was something important to do. I’d then read the book, “So That’s What They’re For” by Janet Tamaro and forced my husband and mom to read it too…in hind sight I’d say that the author was an “extreme breastfeeder” or maybe just an extreme advocate. My mind had been made up, nothing else would do. Even when the pediatrician asked me if he was being breastfed, I said “Is there any other way?” I think that was the first time I’d seen a doctor take a step back. Needless to say, we don’t go to him anymore. If I had to give any advice to a new mom considering the choice of breastfeeding I’d say don’t consider it a choice and take a step away from those that don’t support it and a step closer to those that do. The benefits for the baby will always out weigh the benefits to not doing it. I’m not going to deny that it’s hard, it can be hard for weeks but what is awesome is the day you are sitting cross legged on the couch watching TV and nursing your baby and you realize that you didn’t even think twice. You didn’t dread the latch on or the time it takes. You just find that its part of your life and part of your baby’s and it works…perfectly! I’ve nursed all three of my babies to well beyond 6 months; I wish I could have been longer and every baby was a different experience. I had one that started life in the NICU, the next was healthy and nursed well and also took bottles of breast milk, the other came straight home from the hospital nursing and didn’t take a bottle until he was several months old. I also became more open in public with each baby and that made things so much easier. Every baby, every mom and every experience is different. I’m so proud of myself, but mostly I’m proud of my friends who give it a try. We ARE all in this together! The experience of breastfeeding can not be duplicated, it will never be generic and a bottle will never replicate it. The bond that you form breastfeeding your baby comes from knowing that you alone, with your own body, can provide your baby with the nourishment to grow and thrive and so much more.
Please do not think in the least that I look down on those that do not choose to breastfeed. I don't! I respect anyone's decision when it comes to the well being of their baby as long as it is in their best interest. This was written solely for the encouragement of those considering whither to breastfeed or not.